Blogathon- count down # 20
What is the thing that makes most of us unhappy? I will
say ‘Expectations..’. We expect things, situations and people around us to be
in our favour. When that don’t work out, we will be left hurt.
We all wish to be happy. We wish all that comes to us
should be good..the best. But, that can never be true. Life is a sinusoid,
which has got its ‘crests’ and ‘troughs’. A complete life cycle will have both
the good things and bad things.
This is also true in the case of people around us, those who
love us, and the people whom we love.. We all expect good things. [the ‘good’
tings actually depends. The thing you feel is good for you may not be as the
same for the other person.]. When we like someone, love someone, respects and
admire someone, in our heart, we all wish to get it back. May be its from the
same person or other. Everybody want to be considered, and appreciated. There
can be nobody who don’t want to love and to be loved, to care and to be cared. It is
not necessary that, we want to care a person, whom we want to be cared by.
“Some people are so lucky that, even after hurting ,
they get so much love and some are so
unlucky that, even after giving so much love, they always get hurt”..
There are some people who like to be loved and cared by
others, but they don’t think it is necessary to return this. Instead, they
think it as their privilege just to take things from others and not to give. They
don’t even bother about that. And there are some others, who never acknowledge
others, for the love and care given by them. They don’t think these things and
people should be appreciated and valued for their kind heart. They feel that,
they don’t need anybody. They can sustain without the help of any of them. And what
is the condition of the other party? Those, who only giving affection and not
getting anything in return? There can be only very few of them who giving,
because they find happiness in giving. It is not necessary for them to check if
they are getting back everything according to their giving. And there can be
another type, who expect the same kind of affection and consideration from
others. They get disappointed, when the things don’t reach up to their expected
level. So, what should we do?
I think, I know the answer. “Accept”. Yes, we all
have to accept whatever comes to us. We can’t do anything about that. But the
thing is , how we receive that. The very happiest, and successful people are
not the people having least problems. It is not like, God has done any ‘partiality’
to them. The difference is made when the attitude of accepting things changes.
If you are a person, who like to be loved and cared, then
accept that others do wish the same from you. And try to give with the same heart as you receive favours
from them. If you are someone who think ‘I don’t need anybody, I don’t want to
care and to be cared”, you are lying. Because, that can never be true. After
all, why we all have this life? Just think about it. Consider and appreciate
the people who love you even after you continued to be avoiding them. You really
need them, and they need you too.. And, for the last type of people who are sad
on not getting back the same affection from the other person, accept that too.
Accept that, you have to wait some more time, to make them realise, how important
you are to them, and how much you need them. Give them some time too. Accept
that, we can’t force somebody to love us. Care us... if they deserve you, they
will surely understand you and , everything will reach you without any
intimation which can be beyond your expectations..
Some body said “ Expectations always hurt. To be happy,
avoid expectations..”. just accept what you get, but in a positive way.
